I used to feel annoyed when people would say, ‘Oh, your creative energy is connected to your sexual energy.’ It’s just that your second chakra is stuck – oh please!
Until …. I experienced it for myself. See, I am a bit of a sceptic. Until I experience something for myself, I don’t really believe.
However – energy is energy – there’s no one separate energy for this and one energy for that – it’s all one.
Creativity comes through in all ways – being pregnant is a creative process, mothering, fathering, working, cooking a beautiful meal can be creative, arranging some flowers in your house, designing a building or a garden is creative.
What I have experienced though, is a direct connection between how I made love to how creative I became in my life. Making love where the energy is always expressed outwards has a very different effect on the psyche and body than if you, through your awareness; retain that energy- at least for some time. That’s where slow conscious sex comes to the fore.
The chemicals associated with sex actually begin in the brain, in the pineal and pituitary glands. In conventional sex, the energy is raised and then released out of the body. What we teach in our retreats is how to create the environment to effortlessly allow the energy to recirculate back through the body and return to its source, the brain.
But this is not done through some mystical technique. The body has an inherent and natural ability to regenerate and recirculate this energy all on its own. Flooding the body in soothing chemicals that bathe and saturate the glands to a state of deep relaxation, and it is from this state of deep relaxation that the creativity is sparked.
If you feel stuck emotionally, or stressed, then you can feel stuck creatively. But it’s good to remember that the body and psyche respond very quickly to its environment. Blocked creativity today does not mean its long lasting – it can change in the blink of an eye. And usually it has to do with being in the body and not in the mind. As soon as the flow comes back into your body, things start to shift.
So whether you are single or partnered, the secret lies in allowing stagnant energy to move, through gentle physical activity, slow lovemaking if possible, or a combination of both movement and being in stillness – embodied meditation. Then creative expression will arise naturally.
It's a bit of a running joke while making love that I need to have my computer or a writing pad nearby to start writing as the inspiration just starts flowing!!
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Janet is a speaker, author and mentor, who supports women and couples to deepen in their intimate relationship. She is presenter of Opening to Love Retreat and The Making Love Retreat for couples in Australia. She is co-author, along with world reknowned author, Diana Richardson, of the upcoming book, Tantric Sex and Menopause, Practices for Sexual and Spiritual Renewal.
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Last week it was my father's birthday. He would have been 91. It reminded me of the days before he passed in January 2015, when I would sit silently with him.
Watching his closed eyes, seeing him breathe in and out quietly and gently, while stroking his body or holding his hand, my eyes would moisten. I was so moved as I contemplated the pure love of this man I could proudly call my Dad.
One of the biggest complaints I hear from couples at The Making Love Retreat and from clients is that they are time poor.
‘We want to make love but we just don’t have the time.’ It is true that fulfilling lovemaking does require time. But when we do finally make love we are often in a hurry to get it over and done with, to get to the end, the goal, the orgasm.
Always striving towards something in a hurried way often means we are not really present. We are ahead of ourselves. Also if we don’t orgasm, with the downward release of energy, then we think it’s not really sex.
Women are in distress ...
I've been contemplating the idea of Dynamic Stillness in relation to making love lately.
To me Dynamic equals life force.
Stillness equals power as it's in the deep inner space of our being that power resides.
So Powerful Life Force is what we are talking about.
How to be dynamically still in your life and whilst making love?
It seems like a contradiction. Surely you have to move for something to be dynamic? For it to be fun, to be interesting?
The use of Pornography must be one of the most polarising subjects around when it comes to sexuality and relationships.
Shrouded in secrecy, both women and men, silent for their own reasons - men for their shame and guilt. (Men more commonly use Pornography more than women)
And women, for their feelings of betrayal and shame that they are 'not enough' for their husband, who has to resort to porn to satisfy him.
A sense of failure prevails for both. Deep wounding is triggered and is created fresh in the moment, as each click drives another relationship to the wall.
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