As the years have gone on, there's one distinction that has become clearer and clearer to me around this crazy thing called Love.
And that is the pathway to sexual intimacy, well at least one with depth and sweetness - is through emotional intimacy and connection.
And by emotional intimacy, I don't mean becoming highly emotional and then making love to 'make it better'. I mean tender, heart connected, verbal and non-verbal,...
‘Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies’
I love this quote by Nelson Mandela. What a man! …. to have endured such injustice and still have forgiveness in his heart.
It’s great to do a physical cleanse and really detoxify the body. And, how are we poisoning our bodies with emotions like resentment and bitterness? Many do not realise emotions such as these can create an enormous amount of toxicity and chemicals that can radically affect one’s health AND the health of any relationship.
Tension in a relationship can ...
What is it to be sexually vulnerable in a relationship?
A strange question. Who wants to be sexually vulnerable? It implies being used, being abused, even being open to things that you just don't resonate with. Or going along with the current trends that are being normalised through online porn or movies. To feeling defenceless, weakness, being unprotected. To me, it doesn't mean that at all. Let's take a deeper look.
Bringing those two words together – sex and vulnerability seems scary. And it’s a bridge that many don’t want to cross. Especially for women, but also for men. In a way though, women are already sexually vulnerable just by their very physical nature.
But to put it into the context of a relationship, being sexually vulnerable means leaving aside the mind games we play to protect ourselves, to get love, to perform, or perhaps look a certain way to our partner.
There’s a new woman emerging - a woman who wants to know self-love. A woman who wants to live an authentic life where she knows deeply she is valued, loved and respected because she values, loves and respects her own self.
And nothing short of that will do. A woman whose desire to love herself is foremost above loving another, as she’s learnt that all her focus on others has only drained her body, her emotions and her love.
A girlfriend called me in distress recently. She’d been enjoying a beautiful opening with her new man. But, in her own words, her history of relationships wasn’t great. She’d always get to a point where her fear of intimacy would get so engulfing for her, she’d end it or he would.
She knew her potential to ‘open up’. But they had started lovemaking when all of a sudden, her body contracted....
My prayer for 2014 is to grow with more peace and love in my heart. What’s yours?
Sometimes when a prayer like that is put out, we get all that is blocking us from love and peace – have you ever noticed that? I have to remind myself to not get discouraged by that – that it is something in the soul unraveling itself and bringing me to more freedom,...