How I Wish
Back in 1998, life was changing for me. I was 37. My son was going into high school. We'd sold our business of 13 years, I was embarking on a new career in counselling, psychotherapy and creative arts therapy, and had pretty deep depression.
They say that counsellors go into this work, because they need it the most! Yep, that was me. But I also loved the creative process of the work.
Little did I know that the symptoms of depression, mood swings, disinterest in sex and general malaise were a few significant signposts that heralded peri-menopause. At 37! I remember when one doctor pronounced, 'yes you are peri-menopausal'. Peri what? What does that mean?
Women so often are in a cloud when it comes to changes in the body, symptoms that don't make sense and feelings that we wish we didn't have. That's why it is SO important to know our bodies, so we can be informed and possibly bypass some of the symptoms and also so we can feel like we are not going crazy.
We live in interesting times ...
I remember the early 90's, sitting in the Lyric Theatre in Brisbane, when the evocative Canadian Celtic singer, Loreena McKennit walked on stage. She had two sets of gigantuan candelabras either side of the stage, topped with huge thick candles, alighting the space with dramatic overtones. She walked in with her long golden hair and sat at her massive sculptural masterpiece of a harp. I felt transported to a heavenly realm and moved to tears by her mesmerising music and haunting vocals, and then... she began to speak.
"Tomorrow is a big day," she said. "The World Wide Web will open. It's the day that is going to change the world." She seemed to know what it would mean.
A reading from Tantric Sex and Menopause.
EMBODIMENT: From Womb Wilderness to Womb Wildness
Many women have little to no awareness of the womb, this miraculous life giving uterus with its capactiy to hold space for an embryo. It is said for it's size, it is pound for pound the strongest muscle in the female body. A small facinating organ tucked up safetly in the pelvis.
A reading from Tantric Sex and Menopause. CHAPTER 8: Going Deep, Going Slow, Going Wild
Many menopausal women and peri-menopausal women feel such a lack of desire for sex that they feel totally disheartened (not all women, it just depends on our make up). They concerned they are not living up to the image that a sexy and alive woman should feel like. Let's talk more about going wild...
Your body is not broken... A reading from Tantric Sex and Menopause.
Your body is not broken, as each woman's journey through menopause is individual - it is impossible to make all embracing statements about it. At the same time, women share in common many highly significant aspects of menopause - so sharing information with others can really empower women through this time.
As we move through each stage of womanhood, right from when we start to menstruate, our woman's body can give us plenty of surprises.
Do you act as if nothing is happening and just 'get on with it'?
In our teens, 20's and 30's, sometimes we can get away with that, as many women's bodies can be so resilient. But this does have its...
Are you already in New Year action mode? Already set your goals and making it all happen? Good on you if you are … and … sometimes, all this action can leave us missing the moment. I've decided that instead of 'setting a goal' this year, I'd rather take on a particular theme for the year and the one for 2013 for me is … RELAXATION. Doesn't mean I do...
I think the first time I truly became aware of my breasts from the inside was when I began breastfeeding my first child at the age of 24. Unbeknown to me, I was being initiated into a phase of womanhood that at the time was simply a practical and healthy choice for my child.
Little did I realize the true pleasure I’d receive from this nurturing and nourishing experience of feeding...
I was just in Zurich recently and I found myself with half an hour to wait to meet my partner downstairs outside our hotel. The hotel was by the river Limmat, and outside were lovely little tables right on the river where the Swiss enjoy their drinks and coffees. Instead though, I decided to go back upstairs and use the time to lie on the bed and relax - and...
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