Topic: "women"

How I Wish

How I Wish

How I Wish

Back in 1998, life was changing for me. I was 37. My son was going into high school. We'd sold our business of 13 years, I was embarking on a new career in counselling, psychotherapy and creative arts therapy, and had pretty deep depression.

They say that counsellors go into this work, because they need it the most! Yep, that was me. But I also loved the creative process of the work.

Little did I know that the symptoms of depression, mood swings, disinterest in sex and general malaise were a few significant signposts that heralded peri-menopause. At 37! I remember when one doctor pronounced, 'yes you are peri-menopausal'. Peri what? What does that mean?

Women so often are in a cloud when it comes to changes in the body, symptoms that don't make sense and feelings that we wish we didn't have. That's why it is SO important to know our bodies, so we can be informed and possibly bypass some of the symptoms and also so we can feel like we are not going crazy.

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The Underbelly Truth

The Underbelly Truth

We live in interesting times ...

I remember the early 90's, sitting in the Lyric Theatre in Brisbane, when the evocative Canadian Celtic singer, Loreena McKennit walked on stage. She had two sets of gigantuan candelabras either side of the stage, topped with huge thick candles, alighting the space with dramatic overtones. She walked in with her long golden hair and sat at her massive sculptural masterpiece of a harp. I felt transported to a heavenly realm and moved to tears by her mesmerising music and haunting vocals, and then... she began to speak.

"Tomorrow is a big day," she said. "The World Wide Web will open. It's the day that is going to change the world." She seemed to know what it would mean.

I didn't...

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He didn't think it would be this way ...

He didn't think it would be this way ...

He didn't think it would be this way...

It was that one thing she said.

Shame had coursed through his veins so hard that day. It was unbearable.

Shame at his own natural urges, his own simple desire for love, his own yearning for her soft sweet skin against his. And now it had turned to...

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Excuse me God, um... I'm supposed to be a tantric goddess?!

Excuse me God, um... I'm supposed to be a tantric goddess?!

When you are a tired and busy mum, who gets time for intimacy?

As a Mum and now Grandmother, I can totally relate.

Around the time of the book launch of Tantric Sex and Menopause, I babysat my two adorable grand girls quite a lot, aged 2 and 3. Yep, young ones...

And I had them overnight for the first time. And since, many times...

well... any parent or grand parent will know ...

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Womb Wilderness to Womb Wildness

A reading from Tantric Sex and Menopause.

EMBODIMENT: From Womb Wilderness to Womb Wildness
Many women have little to no awareness of the womb, this miraculous life giving uterus with its capactiy to hold space for an embryo. It is said for it's size, it is pound for pound the strongest muscle in the female body. A small facinating organ tucked up safetly in the pelvis.

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Going WILD...

A reading from Tantric Sex and Menopause. CHAPTER 8: Going Deep, Going Slow, Going Wild

Many menopausal women and peri-menopausal women feel such a lack of desire for sex that they feel totally disheartened (not all women, it just depends on our make up). They concerned they are not living up to the image that a sexy and alive woman should feel like.  Let's talk more about going wild...

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Your body is not broken...

Your body is not broken...  A reading from Tantric Sex and Menopause.

Your body is not broken, as each woman's journey through menopause is individual - it is impossible to make all embracing statements about it. At the same time, women share in common many highly significant aspects of menopause - so sharing information with others can really empower women through this time.

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Tantric Sex and Menopause... it's here!

Diana Richardson and I are overwhelmed with joy... Tantric Sex and Menopause available for purchase! It's been a great first week: hitting Amazon Kindle Best Seller status in Australia, and #1 in Kindle Canada's Menopause category.

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Are you stuck?

Are you stuck?

I used to feel annoyed when people would say, ‘Oh, your creative energy is connected to your sexual energy.’ It’s just that your second chakra is stuck – oh please!

Until …. I experienced it for myself. See, I am a bit of a sceptic. Until I experience something for myself, I don’t really believe.

However – energy is energy – there’s no one separate energy for this and one energy for that – it’s all one.

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How I transformed Depression

How I transformed Depression

 

The #metoo campaign a few weeks ago highlighted the burden women (and men) carry in the realm of sexuality, abuse and harassment, often resulting in debilitating depression and anxiety, as well as many other dire consequences.

Basically, a light goes out when there's sexual abuse, any abuse. Or any kind of shock or deep hurt. Or harassment. A contraction, a hiding, a retreat from life. A shrinking and consequent 'forgetting' of who you really are.

Until we can find something that liberates us from the constant pain and suffering that is depression, we are not free.

The incidence of depression is said now to be 10 times more than in the 1950's....

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