Lovemaking Beyond 40

The words sex and menopause have been two of the most taboo subjects.

Add the word Tantra to that and it goes further. There is a great misunderstanding of what the word Tantra really means.

It can conjure up being naked in a room with strangers, partner swapping, and so on. But this has given tantra a bad rap. The word Tantra is a Sanskrit word meaning 'to expand'.

Most sex is not that. Most sex is contraction and tension. Instead what we teach goes in the other direction, towards relaxation. It seems counter-intuitive.

I go into lovemaking beyond our 40s, in this interview with Sarah Rose Bright. Also why it's so important for men to understand this time of a woman's life and how he can navigate it. As well as the sometimes unspoken things that can happen to our bodies at this time...

We cover a lot of ground as Sarah interviews with such a great conversational style and brings so much of her own wisdom as a woman who also works in this field.

I am not one to glamourise Tantra or even sex for that matter. So I have a very practical approach based on my many years of working with couples and seeing the pitfalls along the way, including what has worked in my own relationship and the benefits of certain keys that can make a substantial shift in relationships.

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Lovemaking Beyond 40

Lovemaking Beyond 40

The words sex and menopause have been two of the most taboo subjects.

Add the word Tantra to that and it goes further. There is a great misunderstanding of what the word Tantra really means.

It can conjure up being naked in a room with strangers, partner swapping, and so on. But this has given tantra a bad rap. The word Tantra is a Sanskrit word meaning 'to expand'.

Most sex is not...

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Reconnecting Relationships in a Post-covid World

Reconnecting Relationships in a Post-covid World

The last two years of a worldwide pandemic and lockdowns have been unprecedented in our modern lives. Never before have we been confronted with extreme mental health issues, and exploding numbers of trauma, anxiety, depression, and sadly, suicides.

The other sad victim of this crisis is our relationships. And in particular the intimate relationship.

Covid was a time of extremes - of polarities. Some relationships have ended. Others are still hanging, but...

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The Fear Most Men Live With

The Fear Most Men Live With

The fear that most men live with, how women can influence men's experience of lovemaking, understanding our unconscious sexual conditioning, why we don't need to wait for desire to make love ...

These are just some of the topics covered in this wonderful interview by Sarah Rose Bright of The Sexy Life Podcast with one of the world luminaries on Conscious Sex and the author of 8 books, Diana Richardson. Diana...

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Love is a Sacred Act

Love is a Sacred Act

Each one of us exists and is conceived, through the actual act of making love.

That 'act' may be less than loving at times. But if we fathom the idea that something that has been labeled as wrong, as shameful in just about every religion in the world, even to the point that celibacy is celebrated as a path to enlightenment, the whole of humanity is shrouded by this blanket of...

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The Intimate Life of the Narcissist

The Intimate Life of the Narcissist

Twenty years ago, we never heard the term, 'Narcissist'.

Only in myths. Now everyone is talking about Narcissism, and thank god it's happening. I think it's been the hidden cause of serious relationship problems and sadly, abuse that has been left unchecked. But the narcissist can be right under our own roof. The more subtle ones. I wish I knew this in my 20's.

Like anything there is a spectrum, from the...

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The Vulnerability of Receiving

The Vulnerability of Receiving

My third grandchild, Isla Rose was born last week. I was waiting in the wings, looking after her two 6 and 8-year-old sisters. I wouldn't want to be anywhere else.

After about a week, the anticipation of the birth and then subsequent relief at all being well, seeing Mum and bub and the whole family doing great, I could feel something inside going, 'ok, time for me'. That edge of...

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