The Dismantling

Sometimes I think I'm just way too sensitive for this world. But if you're reading this, maybe you feel that too.

I don't think any of us are out of the firing line of loss, grief, or trauma right now, whether that is personal, communal, or universal. And all these affect our relationships deeply.

There's a dismantling, a shattering, a shaking of our foundations, that is so collective, none of us can avoid it. Run as we might, we are all connected to the 'field', and consciously or not, it is affecting us.

So you might find that relationships are changing. The solid ground they once were on, feels like there's a shaking up from beneath, that is no longer solid. It might feel like nothing and no one is dependable or predictable anymore.

Things might shock you when you least expect it. And just when things seem to be settling, something else comes. It's in the field.

For those who are feeling the shock wave of it all, here are a few things that may help:-

  • Set boundaries ie limit the amount of information you are taking in.
  • Take walks where your eyes can see into the distance. Even if you don't feel like you have time. I believe it helps the brain to recalibrate, and settle the nervous system. Which in turn allows for insight, intuition, a new perspective, and consequently right action.
  • Be grateful for the little things.
  • Set up a space in your home where you can have conscious rest for at least 20 mins at a time. The most simple is placing a pillow or bolster under your knees, close your eyes and take 5 deep breaths, and settle in. It will do you the world of good.
  • If you're lucky enough to have a lover, hug a lot more. It will soothe your nervous systems deeply.
  • Extend the hand of love and compassion to others. Smile at strangers.
  • Never minimise your own or another's trauma or suffering. The circumstances might be different or appear greater, but the body doesn't distinguish.

And finally - do the thing that brings joy to your heart.

I have been hearing of those that have been caught in the thick of recent natural disasters and survived, finally making a decision that they have been putting off for years.

Maybe it's time to hesitate less and dream more.

 

Womantime

Currently, I have 4 spaces left for our beautiful nourishing Womantime Retreat - Ancient Wisdom for the Modern Day Woman in August. If you feel you need some time for stillness and going within while deeply honouring the feminine and your body, I'd love to see you there. This retreat is held in the hinterland of the Sunshine Coast Queensland, by the renowned Kondalilla Falls National Park.

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What prompted this blog -There's been devastation in my region of Southeast Queensland, Australia, and further north was deluged with the biggest rain event I have ever seen. And it continued on. Heading south to Brisbane, and Northern NSW to devastate cities and communities beyond proportions ever recorded in modern history. The flooding, landslides, loss of homes, livelihoods, and lives and the extent of it have been incomprehensible. The scenes have been apocalyptic.

If you've suffered through this, or your family members or friends have, as have mine, then you will be affected by the trauma of it all. My heart goes out to you. May we all come together as one in our compassion and care for each other and may our spirits rise through simple acts of love.

 


Mother Love

Mother Love

The sweetest thing happened recently.

My mother just turned 90. As she gets older, I notice a gentleness growing more and more in her. To hug her is like hugging a feather. She is so incredibly 'light' now. Though small in stature, her heart and compassion have widened. Something I noticed in my dad as he grew older too.

As a few of us were sitting around the morning after her birthday...

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The Intimate Life of the Narcissist

The Intimate Life of the Narcissist

Twenty years ago, we never heard the term, 'Narcissist'.

Only in myths. Now everyone is talking about Narcissism, and thank god it's happening. I think it's been the hidden cause of serious relationship problems and sadly, abuse that has been left unchecked. But the narcissist can be right under our own roof. The more subtle ones. And how I wish I knew about this back in my 20's, 30's, and 40's.

Like...

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The Dismantling

The Dismantling

Sometimes I think I'm just way too sensitive for this world. But if you're reading this, maybe you feel that too.

I don't think any of us are out of the firing line of loss, grief, or trauma right now, whether that is personal, communal, or universal. And all these affect our relationships deeply.

There's a dismantling, a shattering, a shaking of our foundations, that is so collective, none of us...

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When the Heart Quivers

When the Heart Quivers

The quiver of the heart.

A phenomenon that is rarely spoken of. Yet something very real, available, and life-affirming.

I truly believe that the body is a vessel of Love. And that Love is programmed into every cell. We all know that the heart area is where we feel love.

There's an expansion felt in the chest when we love. Or a heaviness felt in the chest when we grieve the loss of...

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The Gift of Presence

The Gift of Presence

I really am a hopeless romantic. But I'm a cracker when it comes to Valentine's Day. I've seen more conflicts and disappointments from expectations not being met than I think it's worth.

To me, make every day a celebration of your relationship. And the greatest gift you can give your partner, your lover, is your PRESENCE.

I don't mean, 'well I'm here. Isn't that being present?' No I mean, full-bodied, full open-hearted,...

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Love is the Life-saver

Love is the Life-saver

It's no doubt that 2021 has been a challenge for many, if not all of us. The pressure on relationships is off the Richter scale.

On all types of relationships - friendships, partnerships, love-ships, family-ships, work-ships. Many types of ships. 

And the thing about ships is that at the moment, many are all out to sea. With no rudder, no mainstay, no land in sight, and no lifeboats left.

We are being tossed...

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