It is surely a complex world we live in.
There's a new Australian 4 part series on SBS on Thursday night called The Hunting, which has prompted this post as I saw the first episode last Thursday evening. Woh... It's a chilling reminder of what our teenagers are currently faced with in teenage sex and relationships and demands the viewer to see things from every angle. What is 'normalised' in popular culture doesn't make it healthy or ok.
There is so much for teenagers and parents to deal with these days - porn, gender identity, body image, suicide, depression, anxiety. Not to mention our own mental health issues.
I must say when I embarked on this journey of teaching tantra, I was confronted by the male expectation and undercurrent of male privilege in the whole field. I had male teachers contacting me to 'get together'. In my mid to late 40's, I'd been through enough. I'd seen enough hurt around me. By then, I'd already made a powerful pact with myself that I was going to be 'clean' when it came to sexuality.
To be honest, I felt meek as a tantra teacher back then starting out, like I didn't belong to the club. I felt like I didn't live up to the image that I should. I felt I didn't really hold much ground, because I didn't 'do' all that stuff. I felt unconfident as a female voice, because our message wasn't really fitting in with the status quo of the time.
But ten years on now and it's a different story. I have lived it, taught it for that time and it's deeply embedded. And I've become convinced that there is so much distortion around sex that is normalised in our culture, so subtly and we don't question it - and so much in the alternative field that can be misinterpreted, misconstrued in sexuality, in the name of 'growth'.
But things are changing and stories like The Hunting courageously need to be told.
I am seeing men step forward, one by one, good men are adding their voice to this. There's a new breed of men on the rise. The good men that come to our retreats, the good men that I meet every day. Men of heart, who want the best for women, for men and their children. And not to mention, like my co-presenter, Gene.
Things are changing. Here is one father's simple guide to teaching his boys respect for girls
And seeing the men at The Making Love Retreat, over and over, these last ten years, where I get to witness the most intimate of vulnerable moments and conversations. This gives me enormous courage when I see the light that goes on in the men, or their heart melts for his beloved as she opens up before his eyes, or that he softens in his heart and body and allows her in.
I want to be part of the solution, not part of the problem. That's why education about sex that is actually helpful, empowering and speaks of LOVE, not just sex, speaks of SENSITIVITY, not just sensation, that can be an antidote to what's out there isjust medicine for the soul of humanity.
If you want to catch up on last week's episode, ready to watch tomorrow night's (or tonight, if you're reading this on Thursday), I highly recommend you go to SBS on demand - you can watch from anywhere in the world. It's an education it and of itself. Please note - there is nudity and confronting themes throughout the series.
This production is a strong voice and we can add our little voices by questioning what we are 'normalising' in sex and relationships in our OWN relationships and consequently with our kids.
And if it's your time, to come this October, we are holding The Making Love Retreat again, dates below. Love to see you there.
"I am so grateful for having given ourselves the gift of this sacred space and time to reinvent and reinvigorate our marriage. Thank you Janet and Gene for 'walking the talk', for your loving presence, faith and guidance."
- Anne, Making Love Retreat, April 2019
Unwind to re-wild .... as in return to your instinctive self. That's Womantime.
November 21st - 24th will be the fourth Womantime Retreat.
As this work is all about the body, I am finding that the Womantime process is getting deeper and deeper, as each retreat unfolds. So I'm creating more spaciousness for this depth.
Each day is carefully threaded by important ancient wisdom about the female body. Today I thought...
Have you ever been speaking with someone, and they are completely away somewhere else? Have you ever done that yourself?
Or you have been so emotionally charged about something, or so stressed that you simply are not 'here' when someone is trying to connect with you?
After many years with couples and in my own experience, I have come to observe three important keys to creating more emotional and sexual intimacy in relationships. I call them the '3 P's'.
It is surely a complex world we live in.
There's a new Australian 4 part series on SBS on Thursday night called The Hunting, which has prompted this post as I saw the first episode last Thursday evening. Woh... It's a chilling reminder of what our teenagers are currently faced with in teenage sex and relationships and demands the viewer to see things from every angle. What is 'normalised'...
A few weeks ago, I went to Uluru with my dear friend, Sharon, to do our Level 3 Art of Feminine Presence training with Rachael Jayne Groover.
It was an amazing week with some deep insights into how I show up around women and some of the wounds I've carried and how even with our story, there's a way to move beyond instead of falling into the rabbit hole of a crushing hurt with a tumbling of past hurts carried with it, I had a spontaneous opening... into Love - not just love, this GREAT LOVE that I know holds me, you, us all.
Ok call me 'lame', but I have been watching MAFS, yes Marriage at First Sight. There. I admitted it... Embarassing.
Not the usual thing for me to watch these reality TV shows. I'm usually an ABC, SBS girl but I have to say this one had me hooked.... just a bit.
Not because I thought it was great or that I wanted to find out who would find true love... Because I was astounded at the dynamics of the relationships - the betrayals, the dramas and most of all, the way the women behaved.
In fact, I was APPALLED! ....
Last year was devastating for me. Tragedy struck my family. But I showed up.
It was traumatic. I showed up. It was dramatic. I showed up.
In a year that should have been a massive celebration with the launch of my first book, I was in the trenches. I still showed up. My nervous system took a shattering. Eventually I realised I had post traumatic stress. I rested. I retreated. I had to. And then I still showed up.
Souls have been ravaged by far worse tragedy than mine, and they are SS. Still standing...
WOMANTIME 6 Month Immersion
21st - 24th Nov, 2019
Montville, Sunshine Coast, QLD
The Making Love Retreat
17th - 23rd May 2020
Sunshine Coast, Qld
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