At this auspicious time, there seems no better opportunity than to MAKE TIME to PAUSE. Pause to reflect on the year and the depth that you may have been taken to, either through your health, your relationship, your family, your work, or finances. For many there has been a devastation of what was, things have pulled us to places inside ourselves we never knew were there. And yet in this devastation, this crumbling, in this facing of crises, something new emerges - a new resilience, a new insight into self or life, a renewed sense of self, a new clarity. Just as the fire devastates and unflinchingly gets rid of the old, soon the new emerges, new shoots of fresh green contrast the starkness of what was. This is transformation and to me this is what the ending of the Mayan Calendar was about. And whether you believe in it or not, I don't know anyone who has not been forced through a process of transformation this year. It's time to celebrate that, to recognise lessons learned. For me, I have learnt that I cannot control another's destiny and the choices they make in life. This has been deeply transformative for me. So I encourage you to TAKE TIME AND PAUSE with yourself, with your beloved, with your children. Light a candle to celebrate and be grateful, to offer prayers and blessings to those going through devastation at this time, or if you still are yourself, and look to the light of Love to be the guide for 2013. I wish you love from all of my heart ... I thank you for being part of The Conscious Heart journey this year. Thank you to those who have travelled the journey with me in the intimacy and depth of a workshop or retreat space, or a one on one session. I remember each one of you and treasure our time. I wish you love and peace and I hope we meet again soon. Ps. We have a very exciting 2013 coming up and to view upcoming events in 2013, click here.

 

P.S Your body is not broken. Menopause is a gateway, a privilege, a time to embrace change with grace and step into a life that is empowered, loving and alive.  This is your birthright as a woman.  You have been waiting for this all your life... Buy mine and Diana's book Tantric Sex and Menopause on Amazon AUSAmazon US & Amazon UK.


The Road Back to Intimacy

The Road Back to Intimacy

I've seen a lot in my almost 40 years of personal growth and more than 20 years of psychotherapy.

The changes, the trends, the breakthroughs in relationship and trauma theory have reshaped therapeutic environments. And I've seen a lot in my time of exploration into the subject of sexuality and relationship I can tell you.

And, what I have witnessed and been prey to at times, in the name of 'personal growth'...

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Making Love your Priority

When the lovely, Luanne Mareen, in her Answering the Call of Your Purpose series, interviewed me recently, she prompted me to ponder my purpose. It did make me contemplate what led me to do what I do.

I really believe our 'purpose' is more simple than we think. It's just the avenue or the pathway through which we live that purpose that can vary, according to our life circumstances. Whether...

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Are you in love or fear?

Are you in love or fear?

It's a crazy time right now. In Australia, the level of fear in the air seems to be heightening. There's an agitation, a fragility in many. Are you being pulled into it or are you able to remain buoyant?

This low-level anxiety affects our nervous systems and ultimately can affect our relationships. We are at survival in some ways. And our primal brain (survival brain) responds to this fight-flight. Stress and...

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How can I reach her?

I often hear men say, when they speak about sexual intimacy, "It's her problem, not my problem. I want it. She doesn't".

Well, it's not that simple! And it's not her fault, and it's not his fault. There is a lot at play here.

In this video I am primarily speaking to men. But roles can always be reversed. Sometimes it is the man who is retreating from sexual intimacy, so I...

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Mindful Menopause

Mindful Menopause

My daughter took this photo in Melbourne early in 2020.

Contemplating my beautiful journey with her as a mother made me think of something that happened as she grew up. To be honest this is a little hard to admit! But for the sake of any woman approaching perimenopause, well, here I go ...

One day when she was 12, and I was 42, I found myself behaving like a crazy woman...

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Transforming sex into Love

'Why can I not reach her anymore?'. This is the question so many men are asking me lately.

I am seeing a change in men generally these days. Their bewilderment engenders humility. Their hearts are aching to love and to see their partner shine again.

I see this in their faces as they arrive on the first night of the Making Love Retreat, downhearted and confused. Sometimes years of tears ready...

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