Topic: "intimacy"

Lovemaking Beyond 40

Lovemaking Beyond 40

The words sex and menopause have been two of the most taboo subjects.

Add the word Tantra to that and it goes further. There is a great misunderstanding of what the word Tantra really means.

It can conjure up being naked in a room with strangers, partner swapping, and so on. But this has given tantra a bad rap. The word Tantra is a Sanskrit word meaning 'to expand'.

Most sex is not...

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Reconnecting Relationships in a Post-covid World

Reconnecting Relationships in a Post-covid World

The last two years of a worldwide pandemic and lockdowns have been unprecedented in our modern lives. Never before have we been confronted with extreme mental health issues, and exploding numbers of trauma, anxiety, depression, and sadly, suicides.

The other sad victim of this crisis is our relationships. And in particular the intimate relationship.

Covid was a time of extremes - of polarities. Some relationships have ended. Others are still hanging, but...

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Love is a Sacred Act

Love is a Sacred Act

Each one of us exists and is conceived, through the actual act of making love.

That 'act' may be less than loving at times. But if we fathom the idea that something that has been labeled as wrong, as shameful in just about every religion in the world, even to the point that celibacy is celebrated as a path to enlightenment, the whole of humanity is shrouded by this blanket of...

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The Intimate Life of the Narcissist

The Intimate Life of the Narcissist

Twenty years ago, we never heard the term, 'Narcissist'.

Only in myths. Now everyone is talking about Narcissism, and thank god it's happening. I think it's been the hidden cause of serious relationship problems and sadly, abuse that has been left unchecked. But the narcissist can be right under our own roof. The more subtle ones. I wish I knew this in my 20's.

Like anything there is a spectrum, from the...

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Revolution of Love

Revolution of Love

It's been ten years since teaching the very first Making Love Retreat Australia.

The Retreat was founded originally by Diana Richardson, pioneer in the Slow Sex movement.
While Gene and I are no longer a couple, and I have taken over the full facilitation of the retreat over the last few years, I always honour him for the gift of our relationship and how much I healed during the process of...

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The Dismantling

The Dismantling

Sometimes I think I'm just way too sensitive for this world. But if you're reading this, maybe you feel that too.

I don't think any of us are out of the firing line of loss, grief, or trauma right now, whether that is personal, communal, or universal. And all these affect our relationships deeply.

There's a dismantling, a shattering, a shaking of our foundations, that is so collective, none of us...

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When the Heart Quivers

When the Heart Quivers

The quiver of the heart.

A phenomenon that is rarely spoken of. Yet something very real, available, and life-affirming.

I truly believe that the body is a vessel of Love. And that Love is programmed into every cell. We all know that the heart area is where we feel love.

There's an expansion felt in the chest when we love. Or a heaviness felt in the chest when we grieve the loss of...

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The Gift of Presence

The Gift of Presence

I really am a hopeless romantic. But I'm a cracker when it comes to Valentine's Day. I've seen more conflicts and disappointments from expectations not being met than I think it's worth.

To me, make every day a celebration of your relationship. And the greatest gift you can give your partner, your lover, is your PRESENCE.

I don't mean, 'well I'm here. Isn't that being present?' No I mean, full-bodied, full open-hearted,...

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Pleasure, Libido and Peri-menopause

Recently I sat down with Shae Elise Allen from ‘Midlife Pleasure & Power’ for what was a beautifully dynamic and rich discussion about perimenopause.

Our combined enthusiasm for this topic provided an abundance of key information for women experiencing this transition.

Some of the areas we cover are:

  • Corporate sector stigma
  • Pleasure in midlife – what does that look like
  • The surprising by-product of presence
  • Understanding feminine power
  • Your personal renaissance – self-care
  • Generating your own miracles
  • Midlife sex...

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Women, Love and Sexuality

When the lovely, Luanne Mareen, in her Answering the Call of Your Purpose series, interviewed me recently, she prompted me to ponder what led me to do what I do.

This is probably my most personal interview, having known Luanne for some years. So I reveal a lot more than usual in this interview! And to be honest I've been a little reticent to showcase this video because of this....

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