Topic: "menopause"

Lovemaking Beyond 40

Lovemaking Beyond 40

The words sex and menopause have been two of the most taboo subjects.

Add the word Tantra to that and it goes further. There is a great misunderstanding of what the word Tantra really means.

It can conjure up being naked in a room with strangers, partner swapping, and so on. But this has given tantra a bad rap. The word Tantra is a Sanskrit word meaning 'to expand'.

Most sex is not...

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The Vulnerability of Receiving

The Vulnerability of Receiving

My third grandchild, Isla Rose was born last week. I was waiting in the wings, looking after her two 6 and 8-year-old sisters. I wouldn't want to be anywhere else.

After about a week, the anticipation of the birth and then subsequent relief at all being well, seeing Mum and bub and the whole family doing great, I could feel something inside going, 'ok, time for me'. That edge of...

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The Dismantling

The Dismantling

Sometimes I think I'm just way too sensitive for this world. But if you're reading this, maybe you feel that too.

I don't think any of us are out of the firing line of loss, grief, or trauma right now, whether that is personal, communal, or universal. And all these affect our relationships deeply.

There's a dismantling, a shattering, a shaking of our foundations, that is so collective, none of us...

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Pleasure, Libido and Peri-menopause

Recently I sat down with Shae Elise Allen from ‘Midlife Pleasure & Power’ for what was a beautifully dynamic and rich discussion about perimenopause.

Our combined enthusiasm for this topic provided an abundance of key information for women experiencing this transition.

Some of the areas we cover are:

  • Corporate sector stigma
  • Pleasure in midlife – what does that look like
  • The surprising by-product of presence
  • Understanding feminine power
  • Your personal renaissance – self-care
  • Generating your own miracles
  • Midlife sex...

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Women, Love and Sexuality

When the lovely, Luanne Mareen, in her Answering the Call of Your Purpose series, interviewed me recently, she prompted me to ponder what led me to do what I do.

This is probably my most personal interview, having known Luanne for some years. So I reveal a lot more than usual in this interview! And to be honest I've been a little reticent to showcase this video because of this....

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Mindful Menopause

Mindful Menopause

My daughter took this photo in Melbourne early in 2020.

Contemplating my beautiful journey with her as a mother made me think of something that happened as she grew up. To be honest this is a little hard to admit! But for the sake of any woman approaching perimenopause, well, here I go ...

One day when she was 12, and I was 42, I found myself behaving like a crazy woman...

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Return to LOVE

Return to LOVE

Bitterness.
I see it with some women after relationship losses or long periods of being in a relationship.
The pull to be bitter is seductive. If you weaken, you will be sucked into its sticky web.

Don’t do it.
It’s not who you are.
You are love.

And whatever you can do to swim against those waves that want to take you out into that...

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Heartbreak

Heartbreak

'Heartbreak is how we mature. It is as inescapable and inevitable as breathing. Even the longest marriage has it's heartbroken many times, even in the act of just staying together.'

Wise words from one of my favourite contemporary poets, David Whyte.

I see it all the time. A large part of the maturing of a relationship rests on how well we repair from upheavals and disappointments. Some relationships survive it. Others do not.

A wise mentor said to me once, 'A relationship can be for a reason, a season or a lifetime'.

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Intimacy Matters

Intimacy Matters

Very early one morning in February I was interviewed by a beautiful couple, Nicola Foster and Jason Porthouse in the UK for their podcast, Intimacy Matters

I think I am the most relaxed I've ever been in any interview here, having known Nicola before. I'd met Nicola, a Relationship therapist, while attending The Making Love Retreat some 8 years ago in Europe.

We cover a heap of territory from...

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Touch is a force.

Touch is a force.

To approach the body with sensitivity and awareness is a rare thing and yet it’s what every ‘body’ is craving for.

Touch, with presence. It’s the most life-giving, life-saving resource we can offer to our loved ones and those around us.

Yet, in our society generally, the body just doesn’t receive enough safe, loving, respectful, non-intentional touch. 

Touch is the first communication that we have in our world. The power of touch, and...

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