Topic: "self care"

Intimacy after Childbirth

Intimacy after Childbirth

I think the event of birth and it’s subsequent effects on a woman’s body is one of the most underestimated natural disturbances and trauma on the female body and psyche that she may ever have. And on her willingness and physical ability to re-engage in sexual intercourse afterwards. 

I cannot count the number of women who have sat with me and said it. 'It all changed after I had children'.

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Intimacy Matters

Intimacy Matters

Very early one morning in February I was interviewed by a beautiful couple, Nicola Foster and Jason Porthouse in the UK for their podcast, Intimacy Matters

I think I am the most relaxed I've ever been in any interview here, having known Nicola before. I'd met Nicola, a Relationship therapist, while attending The Making Love Retreat some 8 years ago in Europe.

We cover a heap of territory from...

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It's all going to be ok

It's all going to be ok

This one. Me, 23, in Rockhampton in 1984.

A few months later my whole life was about to be turned upside down. I was having a heap of fun, had the best job ever. Art teacher at Rocky Girls Grammar. So good. Never really had any aspirations. Was just like a leaf floating along the river of life.

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Times like these

Times like these

It’s been years and years since I’ve allowed myself time to r e a l l y,  t r u l y,  w h o l e h e a r t e d l y relax.
 
Cortisol levels rising before, during and after menopause make anxiety a very real thing for many mid-life women. So delicate is a woman’s hormonal system it makes times like these a must for us to maintain balance.
 
This is becoming common knowledge now but when I was researching for our book, Tantric Sex and Menopause almost 5 years ago, no one was talking about it.

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I'm No Hero

I'm No Hero

While others have ‘pivoted’ their businesses through this COVID time, or otherwise switched quickly to online (some are my dear friends and I commend them) I instead battened down the hatches.

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What is worthy of your devotion?

What is worthy of your devotion?

Back in 1971, when I was in Grade 7, all I wanted was to become a ‘Sister of Mary’. They were the high school girls, who glided like angels into church every Saturday morning wearing these soft blue capes over their dresses. Like an apparition, they appeared so pure, so beautiful, so mysterious. Oh, I so wanted that! 

You can imagine how disappointed I was when they abolished the practice just as I came into Grade 8!

Even though I have not been a practicing catholic since the age of 16, I am profoundly aware that those early years formed a deep impression on me and an appreciation of the sacred, of devotion, of dedication, of kindness and of love.

And it also left its mark...

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A Love Letter To You

A Love Letter To You

I’m thinking of you, if you are reading this, it’s likely that you are a man or a woman of heart. We all are, but some are more inspired to live from this place than others.

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Unwind to Re-Wild

Unwind to Re-Wild

Unwind to re-wild .... as in return to your instinctive self. That's Womantime.

August 27th - 30th will be the fifth Womantime Retreat.

As this work is all about the body, I am finding that the Womantime process is getting deeper and deeper, as each retreat unfolds. So I'm creating more spaciousness for this depth.

Each day is carefully threaded by important ancient wisdom about the female body. Today I thought...

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Are you Still Standing?

Are you Still Standing?

Last year was devastating for me. Tragedy struck my family. But I showed up.

It was traumatic. I showed up. It was dramatic. I showed up.

In a year that should have been a massive celebration with the launch of my first book, I was in the trenches. I still showed up. My nervous system took a shattering. Eventually I realised I had post traumatic stress. I rested. I retreated. I had to. And then I still showed up. 

Souls have been ravaged by far worse tragedy than mine, and they are SS. Still standing...

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The Secret You Always Knew

The Secret You Always Knew

"I knew this all along but I didn't trust it", she said, with her eyes welling up with tears, both in disbelief and in relief.

For how many years had she abandoned herself? Ten, twenty, thirty?

If only she knew then what she knows now. Would it, could it have been any different?

It's as if this something was already hidden within her body, within her very genetics. They knew. The body knew.

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