I have deep compassion and am so inspired by those with disability.
There’s a silent disability that much of society lives with every day; the inability to truly express and receive love, this great love that resides in every human being. This can be so unconscious we don’t even know it’s there or even question it. And it compromises, inhibits and sabotages the potential of so many relationships.
I was in Hawaii recently ....
One of the biggest complaints I hear from couples at The Making Love Retreat and from clients is that they are time poor.
‘We want to make love but we just don’t have the time.’ It is true that fulfilling lovemaking does require time. But when we do finally make love we are often in a hurry to get it over and done with, to get to the end, the goal, the orgasm.
Always striving towards something in a hurried way often means we are not really present. We are ahead of ourselves. Also if we don’t orgasm, with the downward release of energy, then we think it’s not really sex.
Women are in distress ...
I've been contemplating the idea of Dynamic Stillness in relation to making love lately.
To me Dynamic equals life force.
Stillness equals power as it's in the deep inner space of our being that power resides.
So Powerful Life Force is what we are talking about.
How to be dynamically still in your life and whilst making love?
It seems like a contradiction. Surely you have to move for something to be dynamic? For it to be fun, to be interesting?
The use of Pornography must be one of the most polarising subjects around when it comes to sexuality and relationships.
Shrouded in secrecy, both women and men, silent for their own reasons - men for their shame and guilt. (Men more commonly use Pornography more than women)
And women, for their feelings of betrayal and shame that they are 'not enough' for their husband, who has to resort to porn to satisfy him.
A sense of failure prevails for both. Deep wounding is triggered and is created fresh in the moment, as each click drives another relationship to the wall.
(Please note some aspects of this post may offend)
As women are we lost?
Are we striving too hard for some idealised dream of sex and love, floundering around in the mind's swirling offerings, exhausted by the effort of seeking?
Are we getting buried by our own expectations, leaving us incapable of truly expressing our God-given nature? Love?
We put great weight on sex, and its ability to deliver the final frontier of ecstasy, of power, of love.
Buried beneath the rubble of...