The Underbelly Truth
We live in interesting times ...
I remember sitting in the Lyric Theatre in Brisbane in the early 90's, when the evocative Canadian Celtic singer, Loreena McKennit walked on stage. After being stunned and moved to tears by her mesmerising music, soaring and haunting vocals during her first three consecutive songs, she began to speak.
She said "Tomorrow is a big day - the World Wide Web will be open. It's the day that is going to change the world." She seemed to know what it would mean.
I had no or little idea what she was talking about and really was not interested. Holy man, I was busy with small kids, relationship, businesses, I didn't want anything else to distract me.
But there it came, like a massive blob that just grew and grew. And much for good, But some for bad.
Internet and Facebook (and the rest) has changed everything.
Before the Internet, you were just ... well, you.
These days it seems, you can be anything you want on the internet.
We can project anything - being happy, being cool, being sexy, being spiritual, being successful, being wealthy, being healthy, being together, being this, being that...
Don't get me wrong, I also think that the creativity of expression, both visually and in words through the internet is amazing and I have loved that.
The truth is, that when the computer is off, who are you, really?
We live in such a positivist culture, completely saturated by social media, subscribing to the ideology of things always needing to be 'Good', 'On Track' leading us, in the personal development field, to the persona of becoming the 'Spiritually Evolved Being'. If we are not good, not happy, not 'on', then we don't quite belong to that club.
The underbelly truth when you scratch the surface of any modern day woman (or man) is that we all have challenges.
Being a modern day woman in the world of this 'positivist culture' can sometimes lead to feelings of being ashamed because of the life experiences we are going through.
It takes a tremendous amount of energy to hold the shame, grief or fear of having physical aliments/illnesses, how and why our bodies are changing as we grow older, not being good enough, feeling disconnected within our relationships, having children who don't behave the way that textbooks and society say they should, just to name a few.
Add to that, caring for an elderly parent or adult children who are still needing guidance and attention - women pretty much always... put themselves last.
The pressures on women, particularly women in the menopausal age group are huge!
It's easy to lose sight of our heart, to close it off to survive. To have a mind that is racing at a million miles an hour. And to be so dis-embodied, we lose sight of the fact that we live in such a sacred holy vessel.
It is so easy to dis-embody and lose sense of ourselves, our heart and our bodies. There is so much to juggle, so much that we hold! So when it comes to making time ... self care and sexuality move WAY down the list.
When we come together as women in a safe environment where we are nourished by being seen and heard without pretense, without holding, without the pressures of what we 'should' be... coming back home in pure acceptance of what is. Finding ground again.
When that happens, we relax and let go of judgements and criticisms, our whole body system comes back into coherance with the heart.
That's where the gold is. In that space.
So find something that can bring you back - either carving out that time to be with your partner, creating time to be with others you love and who you know love you.
And if you are a woman, here's my invitation today... we kick off our 2018 Womantime Immersion this November.
So if you feel it's time .... to slow down to just being ... and be in a space of safety, love and honour of who you really are, masks aside, we welcome you. The Womantime Immersion is a 6 Month Interactive Program designed as a kick start to get you back on track, back to simply 'being', through subtle and powerful experiential transformation.
14th October 2018 - The Making Love Retreat TM [Now Taking Bookings]
1st November 2018 - Womantime Immersion [Now Taking Bookings]
If you would like to learn more about the transitional stage of menopause, as well as a practical guide to incorporate into your life, my book Tantric Sex and Menopause is available online and in stores.
The Making Love Retreat
14th - 20th October 2018
Sunshine Coast, Qld