I'm sorry. Please forgive me.

I have deep compassion and am so inspired by those with disability.

There’s a silent disability that much of society lives with every day; the inability to truly express and receive love, this great love that resides in every human being. This can be so unconscious we don’t even know it’s there or even questions it. And it compromises, inhibits and sabotages the potential of so many relationships.

I was in Hawaii recently and was overcome with the LOVE in the people of that nation. It moved my heart to tears at times. As I write I can feel my heart swelling right now. That country is embedded in a deep spiritual philosophy of love, respect, of integrity. It goes right through the fabric of their society. The customs, the people, and the music opens your heart. For sure, like all countries, there’s an underbelly, but it is underpinned by this deep language of the heart.

See, Hawaiians know they are not separate from all. They know they are connected deeply to every part of life.

Dr Ihaleakala Hew Len from Hawaii made headlines when he worked in a ward for four years where they kept dangerous criminally insane at Hawaii State Hospital. Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. Staff would call in sick often and would be afraid for their lives.

Dr Len had an office next to the ward and interestingly, he did not see his patients. Every day he would take out their files and say a Hawaiian prayer, the ho’oponopono, which is -

I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.

After a few months, patients that had to be shackled could walk freely, others were getting off their medications and still, others that previously had no hope of being healed were released and allowed to reintegrate into society!

Dr Len says that the change happened from repeating these phrases over and over, with an attitude of total self-responsibility, that whatever is happening in one’s life is part of our own reality, that we are part of the cause. Wow. Now that’s another step in self-responsibility isn’t it?

Let’s make this week the week for healing the heart. Whenever a challenge in any of your relationships or something that needs healing presents itself in your life, open to the place where the hurt resides within you. After identifying this place, with as much feeling as you can, say the four statements – ‘I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.’

God knows we and the planet needs it right now.

(This is 'Papa', a beautiful soul and the captain of the boat we were on when we swam with the dolphins on Oahu. He was pure love! and such a demonstration of a big-hearted Hawaiin.)

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