The Secret You Always Knew

"I knew this all along but I didn't trust it", she said, with her eyes welling up with tears, both in disbelief and in relief.

For how many years had she abandoned herself. Ten, twenty, thirty?

If only she knew then what she knows now. Would it, could it have been any different?

It's as if this something was already hidden within her body, within her very gentics. They knew. The body knew.

As I stand in front of women and men, whether its at womens events or a couples retreat, this is the most common response to information we share about the fundamentals of Tantra. (You can view the essence of it in my ted talk here)

There really are so many interpretations of this topic. Following is an excerpt from our Tantric Sex and Menopause.

For us Tantra is essentially this: the ancient art of awareness (mindfulness) applied to the self and to the body - in daily life, as well as in sex.

Awareness directed into the body immediately, almost magically, creates expansion rather than contraction, and requires being conscious moment by moment rather than the mechanical repeating of patterns.

And the miracle of awareness (or mindfulness) is that it has the power to transform your life, dramatically improve its quality, and increase your self-love and your joy. A Tantric awareness amplifies sensuality and can be brought into play at any time of the day (or night!) as an individual,
independently of a partner. And this ‘moment to moment’ awareness is especially powerful when
incorporated into lovemaking.

The essence of Tantric knowledge is that each individual is a complete ‘magnetic unit’
within themselves. The body carries two equal and opposite energy poles; one in the heart/chest
area, and one in the genital area. One pole is male, which is inherently dynamic or ‘positive’ and
has the power ‘to raise energy’ - to awaken vitality. It’s important to note that dynamic does not
mean active or activity. Dynamic means there is an inherent capacity to flow that occurs without
actively doing anything, and arises of its own accord and comes into play when an environment
conducive to its response is created. Sometimes this may happen spontaneously, however it is
possible, through awareness, to consciously create the situation.

The corresponding female pole is inherently receptive or ‘negative’, with the power to
absorb, to receive, to take in. Again here, it’s important to note that receptive does not mean
passive and unengaged. It means to be fully present, yet non-doing. And these two powers –
dynamic and receptive – are ‘equal’ forces. And, at the same time, they are ‘opposite’ forces that
complement each other, and work in unison, as one single unit, as two parts of one whole.

In the last few decades the truth that each individual carries both male and female elements
has been established through chromosome studies - however this highly significant Tantric
understanding is ancient and dates back well over 10,000 years.

 The Magic of it

The thing is ... if love itself does not become part of your experience, then what's the point? When the body relaxes, love automatically is the by product. And this is really where we are heading right?

With so many interpretations of what Tantra is, we can sometimes get focussed on the 'technique', on getting somewhere, rather than on the heart and what generates love. if you interersted in generating love, reconnecting and healing on a profound level, then consider coming to The Making Love Retreat.

I also go into more detail on Tantric and self care practices specifically for women at the Womantime Retreat, if you would like to know more about this nourishing women's only retreat- read more here.

You can purchase my book, Tantric Sex and Monopause here >>



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