At the recent Uplift Festival in Byron Bay, it was suggested to support each child by praising them for who they are this Christmas - sitting them in a chair and for each person to take a turn to say what they love about them.
I say do this for everyone - young and old. We all thrive on acknowledgement and shine when we are recognised for how we are, no matter what age. As my dear Dad is facing his twilight time on this planet, I want every opportunity to acknowledge him for the amazing man he is. If your family is huge this could be a big undertaking but maybe there's a way over this holiday period to spread the love with this idea in mind.
So make this part of your Christmas gift to your beloveds. And if you are in a love relationship right now, do this with your wife, husband or partner. The love you generate within your very own relationship is palpable for those around you.
Australia has been hit with her fair share of tragedies last week. It's been beautiful to see the bonding and positivity of human beings, instead of division and separation. In the end all we can do is be the best we can be in our own personal relationships.
May our individual offerings of kindness, compassion and peace create this ripple effect in our families and lives of all we touch. Only then can we create a groundswell of healing for our beautiful planet and hearts.
And Thank you to you because if you are reading this, you are part of the change that's happening on this planet - for being someone who values heart over head, who wants more in love relationships and your life, and just that pure intention serves us all.
Have a beautiful Christmas and Holiday break - see you for a special year in 2015 with new programmes, a new website and simply more love!
P.S Your body is not broken. Menopause is a gateway, a privilege, a time to embrace change with grace and step into a life that is empowered, loving and alive. This is your birthright as a woman. You have been waiting for this all your life... Buy mine and Diana's book Tantric Sex and Menopause on Amazon AUS, Amazon US & Amazon UK.
2020. The year of crumbling, also the year of opening. Opening doors that were perhaps closed.
Intimacy is about opening doors. Doors that have been shut for too long. Doors that need a little prying open. Doors that need the hinges oiled with love and understanding, so they open more easily.
Never before has the human connection been more important than now. The heart, compassion, understanding, empathy, even more potently needed. We...
This one. Me, 23, in Rockhampton in 1984.
A few months later my whole life was about to be turned upside down. I was having a heap of fun, had the best job ever. Art teacher at Rocky Girls Grammar. So good. Never really had any aspirations. Was just like a leaf floating along the river of life.
It’s been years and years since I’ve allowed myself time to r e a l l y, t r u l y, w h o l e h e a r t e d l y relax.
Cortisol levels rising before, during and after menopause make anxiety a very real thing for many mid-life women. So delicate is a woman’s hormonal system it makes times like these a must for us to maintain balance.
This is becoming common knowledge now but when I was researching for our book, Tantric Sex and Menopause almost 5 years ago, no one was talking about it.
For years I have written about women closing down sexually. I'm kind of known for it.
But the thing is that men close down too. We all do - it is not necessarily gender specific.
It's just that men usually have naturally high testosterone, rising by 800% in a boy's teens, which makes him highly sexually driven, also give that it is his dymanic pole, in a Tantric sense.
Testosterone can remain high until his 50's - 60's and still quite a reasonable level into his 70's, as long as he is healthy.
But some men find that they have absolutley no drive for sex and no erection at all, even at younger ages - 30's - 40's. And the heart breaking thing is - like women, is that they don't want to be closed....
There's an acceleration of consciousness sweeping the planet right now. Can you feel that?
Things that were 'fringe' 30 years ago are now mainstream.
Conversations that were behind closed doors are now open and in the nightly news - abuse, depression, anxiety, sex offenders and narcissistic leaders being called out etc etc.
The world is now wanting authenticity. Not a glossed version of 'I have it all together' - it's about realness.
There's one real conversation that I am glad is being had now too and it's about another change - 'the' change - yes the change women go through anywhere from their late 30's, 40's, 50's. Menopause, peri-menopause.
There's nothing more real than your body changing unexpectedly or even gradually - looking down at it and seeing what once was up is now down!